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What if the thing you regret most is exactly where God wants to show off His grace? When life doesn’t go as planned—when your dreams get delayed or derailed—how do you deal with the disappointment? In this raw, honest message, we’re diving deep into the hard truths about unmet expectations, from broken marriages and rebellious kids to failed careers and lost dreams. Through the story of Samuel and David, we see how God shows up in our dysfunction and disappointment—not to shame us, but to redeem us. Samuel faced setback after setback. David was written off as insignificant. But God used both. This talk reminds us that God doesn’t look at your failure and see a disqualified life—He sees potential, heart, and redemption. Whether you feel like the one let down, or the one who let others down, you’re not done. God won’t quit on you.

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Disappointment

Ben Foote
June 29th, 2025

// Bible References: John 16:33; 1 Sam 2:26, 8:5, 15:35; 16:1,6-13; Gal 6:9; Psalm 51:17; 1 Cor 1:27-31

// Community Question: Who is your favorite dysfunctional family from TV or a movie, and why?

// Discussion Questions: 

1. Ben described various types of unmet expectations that can lead to disappointment, like marriage not getting easier or not achieving certain career goals. What are some common expectations we have in life that have led to disappointment? Think of a specific expectation you had that didn't turn out as you hoped. How did you feel then, and how does it influence your current perspective on life?
2. Ben pointed out that disappointment can lead to poor decisions and compromise. What steps can you take in your own life to prevent disappointment leading to negative actions or choices?
3. Ben shared that some of us may feel like a disappointment to God but reminded us that God does not judge us based on our successes or failures, but on our inner character and intentions. How can this understanding change the way you perceive yourself? Also, how might God’s perspective on you change the way you view others in your life?
4. Going Deeper: Read 1 Sam16:1, Gal 6:9. Ben explained how Samuel dealt with disappointment when his plans failed by continuing to obey God’s command, even when Saul, his sons, and the people of Israel let him down. How did Samuel demonstrate resilience and faith in God? Can you recall a time when you felt disappointed when your plans fell apart, but chose to keep going?

// Challenge: Ben encouraged us not to quit trusting God because God has not quit on us. How can we as a group encourage those who are dealing with disappointment this week?