House Of Dysfunction
The Three Chairs That Define Every Family
July 20, 2025 | By Jesse DeYoung
What if your quiet compromises today are shaping your kids' faith tomorrow?
This message hits hard because it matters. Jesse walks us through the story of David, Solomon, and Rehoboam, three generations, three chairs, and one undeniable truth: the posture of your faith today becomes your child’s foundation tomorrow. Whether you’re committed, coasting, or checked out, this message holds a mirror to your spiritual life and calls you to something deeper, realer, better. David was committed. Solomon compromised. Rehoboam was complacent. That decline didn’t happen overnight. It started with one generation easing off the gas. Jesse unpacks how “The Three Chairs” explains not just their story, but ours. It’s not about perfection—it’s about the direction you’re leading your life and legacy. And the good news? You don’t have to stay where you are. You get to choose.
Set List
"Can't Help But Praise" by Jordan Colle
"The Blood" by Dante Bowe, Jenn Johnson, and Mitch Wong
"Holy Forever" by Brian Johnson, Chris Tomlin, Jason Ingram, Jenn Johnson, and Phil Wickham
"Jesus Have It All" by David Funk, Edward Rivera, and Jeremy Riddle
Message Discussion Questions
The Cost of Compromise
Jesse DeYoung
July 20th, 2025
// Bible References: 1 Kings 10:23-24; 11:4; 12:6-8; 10-11; 14:22; Proverbs 13:20; Rev 3:15-16
// Community Question: What’s the best summer vacation you’ve ever taken and why?
// Discussion Questions
- What does the term 'compromise' mean in the context of faith, and how does it affect our relationship with God? Can you think of a time when you compromised your values for something that seemed more important? How did that impact you?
- Jesse highlighted how Rehoboam observed his father Solomon's compromises and followed in his footsteps. In what ways can seeing someone we admire compromise their values influence the choices we make? Reflect on someone you look up to. How do their actions or decisions inspire you, either positively or negatively?
- Going Deeper: Jesse emphasizes that compromising on what we truly value can mislead our children and others about the importance of faith and family. Consider how your actions reflect your values. What steps can you take to better align your priorities with your values and ensure you're showing commitment to your faith and family?
// Challenge: The sermon uses the analogy of three chairs to illustrate different attitudes toward faith: commitment (chair one), compromise (chair two), and complacency (chair three). Which chair do you feel you currently sit in, and what changes can you make to move toward the first chair of commitment?
